Everyone I know wants to be successful. Most of us try to imagine that we are successful. I don’t think that our attainment of successful status is self-evicdent if you consider how many depressed and unhappy people there are in the world. So many failed relationships and marriages are final proof of our failure to reach the eve elusive status of being successful. So, the quest for success is something that I would argue that all normal and mentally stable humans share as a mindset of our species. The thirst and desire for success can consume some folks as they continue to seek and attempt to create milestones and trophy’s that they feel demonstrate their status of success to others around them. To them it is the attainment of material goods, many that lesser members of our species cannot obtain due to their rarity or expense, thus the conclusion must naturally be that the human that has so much to demonstrate in this manner, must surely be successful? That is what they understand and what they believe denotes their attainment of this elusive status of success. But if that were true then why are so many rich and highly famous people so miserable and unhappy? We have seen this over and over again in the news. Just recently the loss of Robin Williams was a tragic example of this playing out.
So obviously material items that we believed would allow us to claim “WE ARE SUCCESSFUL” does not actually create that status as we had hoped it would. So what is the real formula for success, you might ask? I think it is something that is attainable by anyone with the right mindset. It is not exclusive to the high income earners and the rich blue blood class of our society. In fact, it is available to anyone with the right mindset.
The simple formula for success is to be happy. Being happy is truly the most elusive of status if we look past the trappings of the material facade that most put on and wrap themselves in to attempt to hide their lack of happiness. Now I want to make this clear… you do not have to be poor to be happy and being rich does not mean that you cannot be rich and happy at the same time. The creation of happiness is about YOU and how YOU look at YOUR life and the things that come and go into your life as you take the journey through your life.
So, success actually is the art of being happy. Anyone who is truly happy would probably feel naturally pretty successful. So success goes hand in hand with being happy. So, if so many folks are unhappy and they really are, then how can it be so simple to capture this feeling and state of being of being just HAPPY? It is because happy is a choice. Being happy is a mindset. It is a choice we must each make consciously if we want to attain that feeling and then become deemed successful. The reason I say it is simple is because it can be taught, it can be learned and it can then be created no matter what the given circumstance. Being successful and happy and enjoying that status in reality does not mean that you never have doubts or down moments. It simply means you do not allow yourself to dwell in that room very long. You know that no good can come from being in a situation where you feel sorry for yourself, you look to others to justify why you feel so lousy and/or you just withdraw from living life into what I would call just existing. We all know folks that have been hit by some bad circumstances and they never seem to be able to let it go and move on or get back into a positive frame of mind. In fact, their mindset has been chosen by them, that they feel unworthy of being happy and thus successful… so like a self-fulfilling prophesy they transform themselves into a miserable and unhappy human example of their mindset. The worst thing is that they could choose at any moment to change that situation and transform themselves back into a happy person and become successful. It does not matter what the world throws at you that has taken you off our game or unseated you from your throne of power. A truly successful person knows that there is something to learn from this and that there will be another opportunity to not only gain back what was lost, but actually gain even greater benefits. The only thing required to defeat the dragon of doubt and self-pity is YOU being armed with the proper mindset.
Once winners realize that all situations are just opportunities to learn new information and thus gain experiences in how to navigate through such obstacles and from this they become wise or develop wisdom to live a better and more successful life. So, when one door closes another will truly open somewhere down the long hall of our life. Now the art here is to make the right choices. YOU have to still know when to make the choice of going through which door in that long hall way of life. The reality is that many times several doors open at the same time, but not all of those rooms are ones you should go into because they might not be in your best interest. YOU have to know how to make the best choices that are in YOUR own best interests to truly be successful and thus remain in the happy zone for the most amount of time.
It can be said then that one of the best traits of successful people is their ability to make the right or best choices in any given circumstances. So, how is this done you might ask? It is also part of the simple process of being successful and thus happy. You weigh every piece of information and look at it from the perspective of on any given day we are going to learn new information that we should allow the possibility for changing our opinion of how we look at situations. New information is always a valid reason for us to reconsider our own position to see if the introduction of this information into our own scenario should give us reason to change our mind and thus our behavior and approach to each situation. True advancements by humans come when we bust through the current wall of status quo or known variables and find a new variable that is a game changer. Once this happens a truly successful person does not remain firm on their previous position just out of stubborn pride or for fear of admitting they were wrong. No that is not a healthy mindset and it is a sure fired way to make yourself unhappy and thus unsuccessful. YOU have to remember on any given day and moment WE DO NOT KNOW WHAT WE DO NOT KNOW YET! So you have to be open to new information and willing to change your reaction and behavior according to such information, even by taking out of the box risks when given such information. A successful person knows to act in their own best interest when this scenario is presented to them. The basis for making constant modifications to our life course is necessary if you want to obtain and maintain the ever elusive status of being happy or in a happy place (without it being medically induced) and thus successful.
So in the end, successful people are those that know how to be make choices in their own best interest. Make no mistake that being happy and thus successful is about how you choose to look at life and the things that happen to us along the way. It is about having a persistent attitude of feeling positive about your future and knowing that something good is just around the corner as long as we stay or remain open to new information, and thus new opportunities. It is our choice to have a good attitude and be a positive person that others like to be around. It is our choice if we are going to be open to changing our mind and thus progress. It is our choice if we want to look at life as a beautiful journey of discovery and an adventure that can fill our senses with all kinds of new things everyday. It is our choice if we want to be sad and miserable or happy and positive. People that are truly successful seem to have life on a simple almost lucky serendipity type status, but in fact it is just a choice they make each day and it is available to you and I as well. There is no patent or exclusive rights to corner the market on happiness and thus success. It is not diminished when others also gain that status. It is no less valuable when we give it away to others to help them navigate out of their own dark places. So, by choosing to be happy and thus successful we also can help others and it will not harm our own status. Our mindset of being happy and positive and choosing to look at every situation as an opportunity that we should fairly evaluate to see if choosing this opportunity will add value to our feeling of being happy. Those that are happy and successful have mastered the art of making choices that are ALWAYS in their own best interest. That does not mean that they do not encounter failures, but they choose to believe that failure is not fatal and not permanent, it is simply a way to understand how to succeed and move forward. There is an old saying, “Winners never Quit, and Quitters never Win.” The mindset of a truly successful person is that of being positive and happy. They are borne opportunists with enough realistic wisdom born of experiences to make better and better choices each day as they proceed along their journey in life. The ability to have a positive outlook is what drives us through the tough times and gives us the hope of a much better next day and future. Hope is eternal and being an optimist keeps your best options YOUR MINDSET open to new opportunities. YOUR YOU Empire has to believe you will always prevail and your attitude has to be one of a rockstar… YOU are one of the elite most successful at your chosen profession. If you project this and hold fast to the simple success mindset, then you will be transformed over a short time to being perceived as the persona you are giving off. People will see you as successful and treat as they would a highly successful person, so the law of attraction creates the outcome that your mindset has visualized.
I hope that this simple formula can be very useful to you in your own encounters and your own choice to live a successful and thus happy life. This will spread to those around you that work with you, that are in your family and your own intimate significant other will be positively impacted by this as well. Truly your choice to be happy, positive and thus deemed successful by others will make all those around you better off. It also will improve your plight in life as successful people always attract other successful people to them and thus they seem to just be lucky but in fact it is their magnetic draw or the law of attraction that creates that persona of being successful and thus happy. Their mindset makes that conscious choice each day and so can you.
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